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Model Aisha DeBeer opens up about abusive relationship

Model and Fashionista Aisha DeBeer PIC: COURTESY OF PETER CHAN PHOTOGRAPHY

Model and fashion designer, Aisha DeBeer yesterday reveled just how she had endured two broken marriages in an emotional post she put up on Facebook.

The model reveals just how abusive her first husband was and how unfortunately, things could not work out with her second hubby.

Sadly, it appears her son is now following in the steps of his father and DeBeer fears for the worst.

Below is DeBeer’s post:

Aisha DeBeer Abuse Screenshot
Aisha DeBeer Abuse Screenshot

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I HAVE NEVER DONE THIS BEFORE BUT I FEEL LIKE I NEED TO BREAK THE SILENCE AND ALLOW PEOPLE TO SEE MY SIDE OF THE STORY!!!!

Many of you know who im talking out… the father of my 2 kids. He claims to be the angel, when actually he has pushed me to make the decisions i did. Its my sons birthday today and this is what he says in his status….
“10 years i have been both a mother and a father”

I lived in a marriage that forced me to leave, i tried to fight for my kids but he threatened to give my kids “Their last meal”!!! He used the worst kind of manipulation schemes to get me to just lay back and accept seeing them every second weekend, which being the calm natured person i am, I DID NOT FIGHT!!

i accepted alot of NONSENSE, I allowed him to look after them, I did try and fight for them to stay with me, but being the person he is… Scared me!!! Those that know him…. know exactly how he is. And when i say know him… i mean his family!!! ALL THOSE WHO ARE FRIENDS WITH HIM… YOU NEVER KNEW WHAT HAPPENED BEHIND CLOSED DOORS IN MY HOUSE!! Some of you did hear how he used to talk to me and tell me how useless i was because i did such things as burning spaghetti, or made the tea too weak!!!!

I got married again, yes… I believed in love again after 7 years of abuse(Physically, mentally, emotionally) but i did not give up.. I was still seeing my kids, even though i went without seeing them for 5 months in the beginning.. I eventually saw them and had them over often. Finally i was happy… I got given the opportunity by this “man” to live with my kids as they were begging to stay with me, my husband REFUSED!!! So i made a life changing decision, I MOVED CLOSER TO MY KIDS!! UNFORTUNATELY the marriage did not work out and we separated with another child involved.

People want to judge me… GO AHEAD!!! I never chose this life… i chose “LOVE” and now my kids has been brain washed…
His status >

“The strength of a man isnt how respected he is at work, it is how respected he is at home”
I PRAY MY SON DOES NOT BEAT UP HIS WIFE, AND PUT HER IN HOSPITAL for 3 nights and 4 days due to spotting in the brain and staples in her head!!! Cos thats exactly what he did to me…. That was the time i decided to leave.. And he still threatened to put me in the grave the next time!!!

“The strength of a man isn’t how hard he hits, its how tender he touches”
I admit, big heart, but horrifying ways of intimidating a woman. HE stabbed me in the arm while i was pregnant with my boy!!! I have the scars and hospital records to prove it!!!

I PRAY HE DOES NOT HAVE THAT SAME AGGRESSION WITH HIS WIFE THAT WOULD TRY SO HARD TO FEED HIM AND THEIR FAMILY!!!

This is NOT a sympathy battle, My reputation has been tarnished because of this “man”, and i am done reading and allowing these things to be said!!!! I have NOT seen our kids from MARCH this year, all because im NOT “Muslim enough”!!! REALLY!!! Who are we to judge????

I pray the day will come where my kids will see the TRUTH!!!!!

There…… TRUTH IS OUT!!!!! And today… i still choose love… So before you send this message to him, ask yourself, what would you of done in this situation? Yes i choose to be positive, and work hard, and focus on doing good for others… That is who i am. But to have people always talking behind my back, and judging my past. Shame on you!

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